Busy Is a Decision
"Busy is a decision, of the many excuses people use to rationalise why they cant do something "I am too busy" is not only the most inauthentic, it is also the laziest.
I don't believe in "too busy"-- we do things we want to do period. If we say we are too busy that is short hand for not important enough. That "thing" could be sleep, it could be watching Game of Thrones, if we use busy as an excuse for not doing something what we are really saying is that it's not a priority. Simply put: you don't find the time to do something, you make the time to do things"
"We are now living in a society that sees being busy as a badge"
You know when you are working or even in a shop yourself buying something yourself, the automatic polite conversation is-- hows your day going? have you been busy? and you get the response-- OMG we have been ridiculously busy, rushed off our feet, but being busy is good.
Have you ever stopped and thought about how our first response is to tell someone we have been busy even if we haven't, we want them to feel like we are important, like we are contributing to society, and we work really hard. We are definitely living in a society that rather than take the time to do things that fill our cup and relax us we always need to be doing something, we always need to feel like we are busy or society wont see us as someone successful. Where has this come from? And why do we let it rule our lives?
I've let the concept of being "too busy" allow me to put plenty of things that I will actually get a lot of joy from on the back burner for the sole purpose of being able to say, I would read more but I'm too busy (implying that I am doing far more important things than reading depsite the fact that I'm probably just spending literal hours scrolling through social media; too busy huh Hayley?)
If you want to do something you can't let 'busy' stand in your way.
I have done this a lot with blogging, I have let myself paint the story in my head that if only I had more time I would write more blog posts, I would get more followers and then my writing would get to more people and I would be living the sweet life-- being a full time or part time blogger, controlling my own timetable, having all day to do things that I want to do, and smash the keys on my laptop until something great comes out from underneath my fingers, romanticising how it would feel to be able to get up and have a slow morning and go to the gym, and then head into doing work.
I had given myself all this potiental in my head but had kept quiet and safe and "too busy" to see if I would actually live up to this dream of me being a blogger that people looked up to and drew inspiration from. It's easier to think you have all this potiential than to actually go after what you want and use that potiental, only to find out maybe you aren't as good as you think you are.
I listened to this episode of The Perfectionism Project by Sam Laura Brown entitled "How to Balance Your Job and Your Side Hustle" and a few things stood out to me.
Sam's tips are: Have clear goals and clear tasks to work on, have a dedicated time of day for your side hustle, look after your health, surrond yourself with like-minded people and invest in yourself, training and tools and I highly recommend a listen.
But the biggest thing I took from this episode was this:
"Are you worried that the time and effort you put into your side hustle wouldnt be worth it?
Isn't it interesting when we are worried that something will be a waste of time, our answer is - instead of trying and seeing whether it would work - to not try, because we don't want to waste time. Time is ticking away anyway and you can either really invest in something and act as if it's going to succeed or you can give up on it. But the time is going to pass anyway -- why not give it a go?"
WHY NOT GIVE IT A DAMN GO PEOPLE! - the only way you are ever going to get anywhere is if you quit with your excuses and put effort into it.
I have come to realise that rather than being "too busy" or "too tired" to write for my blog, or take photos and grow my instagram, I'm actually just scared of putting myself out there. My procrastination, no matter how much I want to be successful in blogging was coming from a place of fear of other people actually reading what I'm writing - which doesnt make sense because the whole damn point of a blog is for people to read it right? I was so scared of judgement, and I felt like everything I put out needed to be perfect, and in turn I didn't put anything out but let's be real - most people on instagram and reading blogs these days want real and raw and honest people.
Another thing I procrastinate is exercise, getting outside, and reading because I claim to be "too busy" to do all of these things even though I know they are going to help with my mental state. Sam also talks about this in the episode I mentioned above, how having a side hustle is a long game, so we have to have the stamina to keep at it, and the only way we are going to have enough stamina is to look after ourselves, our mental health, our physical health and everything else that fills your cup. Dedicate time to doing these things, it's much easier to think about how things are not easy to do, (like eating healthy ect) but switch your mindset up and think about how easy it is to actually do those things, and how much more you will get out of it if you actually do it.
It is important to realise that we are giving ourselves a way out of growing and becoming a better person, better in business, fitter, healthier, whatever it is that you want by saying we are too busy and all that is ultimately doing is cutting yourself off from success. Success is hard work, success is insecurity, it's being uncomfortable, it's forcing that voice in your head to change the story into something that is going to help and not hinder you.
"Success can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations we are willing to have and by the number of uncomfortable actions we are willing to take"
I hope this helped someone, somewhere who is exactly like me and using the "busy" excuse to procrastinate and not achieve all the things they are wanting to achieve. I hear you, and I understand.
Let's all stop using "busy" as an excuse and start living our wildest dreams, it's hard and its a journey but it's oh, so worth it.
Until next time,
Lots of love,